Talking Big Ideas.
“There is a terrific fear of . . . being the unique human one is.”
~ Marie-Louise von Franz
As a little boy Richard Rorty figured out the meaning of life.
“I knew that the point of being human was to spend one’s life fighting social injustice,” he wrote.
His parents were dedicated followers of Leon Trotsky, the famous Russian whose ideology embraced permanent revolution. Rorty was nine years old when Trotsky was assassinated and one of his key secretaries went into hiding – in Rorty’s house.
A few years later a dear friend of Rorty’s parents, the socialist rabble rouser Carlo Tresca, was shot to death walking down the street in New York City.
Trotsky and Tresca both dedicated and ultimately gave their lives to the cause. Rorty knew this was the correct path. Yet he secretly loved spending time doing “weird” things. Like strolling through the mountains. And searching for wild orchids.
Surely Trotsky and Tresca would not approve of such time-wasting activities. What do pretty flowers have to do with permanent revolution?!
Childhood certainty gave way to adolescent doubt. Rorty desired to fit in and show the world he was committed to Trotskyism. But he knew there was more inside him than that: “I wanted a way to be both . . . a nerd recluse and a fighter for justice. I was very confused.”
We all feel it.
The push to continuously work on projects. The need to always be fighting for progress. The pressure to conform.
The guilt of basking in leisure.
In his outstanding book Four Thousand Weeks, Oliver Burkeman distinguishes between telic and atelic activities.
Telic activities have an aim. We do them to improve something. We seek to build or arrive at an enhanced future state. For example, working on a project, practicing an upcoming speech, taking to the streets to fight for justice. Our focus with these activities is in the future.
Atelic activities have no aim. We simply enjoy them as experiences. For example, getting together with loved ones. Playing games and laughing together. Strolling through nature paying attention to the pretty flowers.
We often fill our days with telic projects. Once we’ve got these big projects done, then we can relax and live well. Except the projects are endless. We never reach the magic moment when everything is in its proper place.
If we don’t intentionally make time to pause and step away, all of life becomes a firehose of never-ending stuff coming at us.
Burkeman explains that if we’re not careful we can give all our attention to the future and end up missing out on our lives. He argues that a key to a meaningful life is, perhaps counterintuitively, filling our days with atelic pleasures. And the most fulfilling of these are often shared with others.
What matters most isn’t how much productive or free time we have, but how much we are free to enjoy time doing what we love. And often with people we love.
The historic ascent of humanity, taken as a whole, may be summarized as a succession of victories of consciousness over blind forces – in nature, in society, in man himself.
Consider the blind forces pushing you right now to engage in productive work rather than leisure. The stress you may feel to complete a project. The desire to do one more task to advance the mission. The craving to make the world around you a little bit better.
Give yourself permission to pause. Enjoy some leisure.
And watch out for the pressure to spend your leisure in a telic state. We often see leisure as time for skill development. Learn a new language, practice musical scales, research how to be a better parent, etc. We can even feel obligated to justify simple relaxation as a way to be more productive the next day. As if the only value in leisure is to help us make progress in the future.
This final week of the year, I encourage you to resist the push to always be in a telic state.
Instead, enjoy being with loved ones. For its own sake.
Make time for your wild orchids.
Stop slogging. Have fun together.
What are a few things you like to do just for fun? Which of these can be done with family over the holidays?
Commit to making time this week to unplug and enjoy some atelic pleasures with loved ones.
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